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You probably don’t know this, but when my husband and I were first dating, I actually asked him to get out of the military.
Because as a child of multiple divorces (Yes, both my parents divorced twice. Once from each other, and once each from a second marriage), I knew what every marriage goes up against-the tough stuff.
I saw military life as a huge barrier to a successful marriage. From deployments to moving all the time to the consequences of war, military life takes regular everyday marriage problems and catapults them towards troubled waters.
My husband and I broke up for a period of time over the whole military thing. I wanted him to get out, and he wanted to stay. In the same breath, he wanted me to leave my life behind to follow him, and of course, I wanted to stay.
After being separated for a period of time, I was in a very dark place. Miserable without him, it was easy for me to see that civilian life without him was FAR WORSE than any military life with him.
That was the beginning of my journey into this military wife and mom life. That was the moment I decided to put on my big girl panties and do this military life thing. Maybe you’ve felt that moment too. The moment when you realize you’re not just gonna tough this thing out, you’re gonna rock this!
I had the court house wedding just 5 months ago today. just this Sunday he told me he is thinking about getting a divorce. we got married young but we didn’t get into it not knowing about the long deployments, moving around all of the time and things like that. I love him still and I want to talk this out with him. he says that he’s thinking about this because he started to think that maybe we rushed things, that we don’t get to act like man and wife when he comes down to see me and his family ( I wanted to try to finish my first semester in Texas because we had already paid for it before we got married) because they didn’t know we got married but I just broke the news today to my mother and she looked it well but then she was sad for me because of him wanting a divorce. he then brought up the final thing which I believe is the real reason why he wants to get a divorce. he is deploying in may to Afghanistan. he will be gone for 6-8 months he won’t be allowed off of the base for his safety because he’s in hydro for the Air Force. I won’t be able to talk to him and he kept on saying that their is a chance that he won’t come back. and when he was saying all of the reasons why he wants to start over and get a divorce he kept on saying that I love you and I don’t want to lose you because you mean everything to me. right now I’m just praying that its just him saying this as a way to protect me if that were to happen. that its not because he doesn’t love me anymore and I really think that he does because after Sunday night he hasn’t brought it up. he called me after work like normal and when he had to go he said I love you. just like normal. Im not mad or anything im just terrified that I will lose my best friend and the man I love